I believe that we all within us a big S Self. A big S, as in a capital S. In therapy, this is the part of us that wants healing and growth. It’s the part that knows what is best for you. I’ve heard it called the core, true self. I’ve heard it called our Essence. I’ve heard it called our Wise Mind.
I like calling it “big S Self” because it is fun to say.
You’ve had it since you were born. It is there and so amazing.
In the therapy space, I try to help you listen to and connect with your big S Self. It’s the part of you that got you to therapy in the first place. It’s the part that gets excited when you try to learn about yourself. It’s the part that knows how to heal from the pain. It’s the part that knows how to heal….period. As a therapist, I only hold the space (and sometimes use amazing tools) while your big S Self connects the dots and does what is needed to walk your path.
Can this be challenging? Absolutely. It can be challenging for the client. It can be challenging for the therapist. But when we trust the process, the big S Self leads the way. If you aren’t hearing your big S self, that doesn’t mean that he or she hasn’t been trying to communicate. It means we have gotten in their way, most likely. Get quiet. Breathe. Connect. Listen. Your big S self has got you!