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January 1, 2021 by Jamie English 1 Comment

Another Way of Thinking

It is the time of year when we are inundated with New Year’s Resolutions, and there are strong ad campaigns for just about every diet program out there. If you aren’t familiar already, know that some of what I am about to say will go against cultural norms. It might surprise you.

It may not fit with what you have believed, or it may challenge some deeply held beliefs.

You may experience some emotional discomfort. You may experience some resistance or defensiveness. Growth often feels like that.

Do take care of yourself. Know that it often takes some time to process this information if it is new, but maybe see if you can remain open and notice your response.

We have been lied to and tricked by the diet industry.

We’ve been taught and conditioned to believe that thinness is ideal, that thin is healthy and moral. We’ve been taught that weight loss is the path to happiness and well-being. This set of beliefs is often referred to as diet culture. Diet culture has us believing we are always broken, not good enough. It compels us to spend MASSIVE amounts of time and energy and money trying to shrink our bodies. It demonizes certain ways of eating and elevates others, so we are constantly comparing ourselves, our bodies, and food choices or how we are eating. Diet culture is making over 66 billion dollars a year from us believing this way.

Diet culture is everywhere, and I am tired of it. This time of year, it is super loud!

There is another way of thinking.

Intuitive Eating and Health at Every Size can help you break away from this pervasive and sketchy belief system. As an eating disorder therapist, this is the approach I promote and teach. As a person who once had the chains of diet culture tightly wrapped around me, this is the approach I apply to my own life. One thing I have learned is this change can be challenging. Diet culture shows up almost everywhere. Unless you are unplugged from any technology, isolating from other people, and not reading any books or other media, it is so hard to escape. Even then, we may have old programming showing up in our memory.

For so long, I have felt I wasn’t as knowledgeable as many of the amazing anti-diet teachers out there. And maybe I’m not. One thing I do know….we need more anti-diet content out there, so I am going to offer it more here. My hope for this space is that we can learn together and figure some things out. I’ll share some things I have learned and ways I’ve grown, and it won’t be perfect. This anti-diet world can feel complicated, but let’s journey and learn together!

 

Photo by Jorne Hermans on Unsplash

Filed Under: Anti-Diet, Eating Disorders Tagged With: anti-diet, Diet Culture Rebel, disordered eating, eating disorders, growing, growth mindset, health at every size, intuitive eating, learning, mental-health

May 24, 2019 by Jamie English 1 Comment

Use Your Judgment

I’m currently reading Judgment Detox by Gabrielle Bernstein.  I haven’t finished it, and I would like to acknowledge that she may not be everyone’s “cup of tea,” but I am liking what I am reading.  She’s outlining a 6-step process (because we love to have practical steps, right?) to be judgment-free.  I am only on the second step, but it seems like she has some solid and psychologically sound information she is sharing.  The first step is to start noticing times you are judging.  Notice without judgment.  I am struck by how she encourages you to take that judgment and get curious about what’s behind that and where it comes from.

Reading this got me to thinking about a phrase you might have heard: “You spot it, you got it.”  Sometimes these catchy little one-liners are fun and memorable for several reasons, but that doesn’t mean they don’t have strong, deep meaning as you reflect on it.  As you might guess, as you dig deeper on your judgments of others, it often comes back to your own stuff.  What we are judging in others is reflecting on parts of ourselves we avoid or try to deny having.  It usually boils down to shame…our own internal shame.  We have shame within ourselves and start pushing it on to others.  Think about it, when we are judging others, aren’t we basically saying, “you should be ashamed of yourself,” in one way or another.  I’m not going to lie, looking at your judgment can sting a bit.  If I spot it, I got it.  So, if I spot pettiness, I’ve got pettiness.  If I spot entitlement, I’ve got entitlement.  If I spot close mindedness….  You get the picture.

Deep breaths.  The good news is that on the other side of spotting our judgment is a path to learning about ourselves and finding healing for our shame.  Another side note within the book, she talks about EFT (emotional freedom technique), also known as tapping.  I was trained in Clinical EFT about 5 years ago.  It can certainly be a good tool within the therapy space, as well as a self-help tool you can do by yourself.  I was happy to be reminded of this powerful tool and hope to revisit it more for myself and maybe some clients.  I may write more about this in future blogs.  I do want to do the “Judgment Detox” for myself, so what I learn may also show up in future posts.

Filed Under: Psychoeducation Tagged With: EFT, emotional freedom technique, growing, judgment, learning, self-discovery, shame, tapping

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