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January 22, 2021 by Jamie English Leave a Comment

Decluttering, Anti-Diet Style

Okay, y’all, it is January. Time to do some decluttering. If you are on this journey away from diet culture, even if you are just toying with the idea, let me offer you three decluttering ideas. I hear decluttering is a focus for some people this month….let’s declutter anti-diet syle.

  1. Here is a simple and quick thing to declutter—your scale. The number on the scale means nothing. NOTHING. How many times have you been having a good day until you look at the number? And then your day turns bad because of some story that you have been telling yourself about what that number needs to be. The number means nothing. There are lies about that number. I want to keep this a little simple for now. It does not serve you to have a scale. So, declutter it. Donate it or throw it out (or smash it with a hammer, friend, I know some have done this and report it feels ah-mazing).
  2. The next thing to declutter is clothes that don’t fit you or that aren’t comfortable. Or that you don’t love wearing. Many folks out there who have a history of dieting or disordered eating are hanging onto clothes that are too small, hoping that they’ll lose weight. Open up space in your closet and donate those clothes. If you don’t love wearing it or it doesn’t feel right, let it go. (Our size does fluctuate up and down some, and it is okay to have a little bit of flexibility here as you get to know and accept your changing body). Be reasonable with yourself.
  3. The last thing to declutter is your social media feed. Unfollow diet accounts or “fitspo.” Clean up your feed. You can do this all at once and/or have it as an ongoing mindset. It is quick and easy to unfollow (and block if needed) an account. Take some time and dig into who you are following (you might find some anti-diet folks to follow while you are at it). Last year (2020), I tried to see if there was one person to unfollow or unfriend a day….or unsubscribe from a newsletter that was no longer an interest.  My thought was it took me less than a minute to do this, and if I were consistent all year long, I would unfollow more than 350 things (spoiler alert, I was only consistent until about March—then so many things went out the window).

Those are just three things to declutter. Even if you are only dabbling with anti-diet ideas, these three can benefit you and your mental health regardless. I mean, if you are wearing clothes you don’t like or aren’t comfortable….or if you are following social media accounts that make you feel gross….you’ll feel better decluttering. And the scale, well….that may need more of its own blog post one day, but at least put it up, so you don’t see it all the time!

Filed Under: Anti-Diet, Body Image, Self-Care Tagged With: anti-diet, body image, declutter, Diet Culture Rebel, letting go, mental-health, self awareness, self-care, self-esteem

July 3, 2020 by Jamie English Leave a Comment

How Are You Sleeping?

I took an impromptu break from social media break. I had trouble sleeping. I found my mind racing and ruminating over…. arguments on social media. I found it super interesting what was bothering me. And then I realized people I barely knew were saying things to other people I barely knew. I was reading their comments back and forth and feeling upset. I decided to stay off of social media for a while. I didn’t know how long. Instead, I focused on people I have hugged or seen in person (when not social distancing) for a bit. It ended up working after just a couple of weeks, so I dabbled here and there, reading some social media but avoiding posting. If you find yourself in a similar situation, maybe you want to hit the snooze bar on your social media.

Here are some things to think about if you want to consider your own social media snooze:

  1. Evaluate what you want and get from social media. I personally enjoy reading a few features regularly on social media. I find inspiration, as well as seeing my own “on this day” on Facebook. I was also taking a class that had a group on Facebook that I wanted to check in on from time to time. I gave myself a few minutes each morning to check in on from time to time. I know of people who get completely off of social media or delete the app off of their phones. That makes total sense for some, and maybe one day I will get there. But….for now….I just wanted to take a break.
  2. Be curious about your response to the social media fast. Several times a day, I would find myself wanting to click on the apps or even click then immediately close down. Before this fast, I would have told you that I don’t read a lot of social media throughout the day. I think compared to some, that is true, but I would relax and look at cat pictures or elephant pictures (don’t make fun of me), as well as the occasional meme that made me laugh. That is good decompression for me. But I wanted to take a true break, so I avoided even these things.
  3. Have an ongoing assessment with yourself. I started a week, but then as that week was close to ending, I decided maybe it should be for the month. I wasn’t feeling the calm and peace that I was hoping for in just one week. Some might benefit from just a day or a weekend. Giving myself that second week was pretty much all I needed, but I didn’t know it would be. So that ongoing assessment with myself was key.
  4. This is your social media fast, do it the way you want to do it. I checked in with a couple of things daily. I allowed myself to post for my future self (I wanted a memory to show up next year). And when I had planned for the month but started feeling better after two weeks, I “dabbled.” I went in and read some things and noticed how I was feeling. I was reading folks that were inspiring or fun for me, but I did so in small spurts.
  5. Right before jumping back into social media-ing (not a real verb but I am making it one), I quickly evaluated friends or who I was following to see if I need to “clean up” my feed.

There are some things I noticed during my snoozing. Take any of what I said that feels helpful. Forget the rest. It is good to get back into blogging and posting on my social media accounts!

Filed Under: Self Awareness, Self-Care, Uncategorized Tagged With: letting go, mental-health, mindfulness, self awareness, self-care, social media fast, vulnerability

October 18, 2019 by Jamie English Leave a Comment

Waiting to Breathe

Ever feel like you are holding your breath until something is over? Waiting for the thing to change. I put the word thing in italics because just about anything can go in that space:

  • Job change
  • Health condition to get better
  • New medications to work
  • Loved one to stop destructive behavior
  • Get a job
  • Finish school

That list could go on and on and get quite painful. What I am about to say may seem harsh, but what if….for right now….we accept that this is the way it is. Learn how to breathe right now, even if nothing changes. I’m not saying to give up hope, but while we are holding our breath, we are likely making things worse. It is probably not helping, at least. Ironically, sometimes, when we accept things the way they are, they do change. But even if they don’t, the breathing will be good for us.

Filed Under: Acceptance, Psychoeducation Tagged With: acceptance, acceptance and commitment therapy, breathe, cognitive distortions, empowerment, growth mindset, imperfection, internal wisdom, letting go, life lessons, mental-health, mindfulness

September 27, 2019 by Jamie English 1 Comment

Breathing Through Transition

Who remembers when they were a kid wanting to be a teenager? Then when we were a teenager, we couldn’t wait until we could drive. Then we couldn’t wait until we graduated high school. Then we couldn’t wait to go to college. Then….

I remember going to a yoga class a few years ago and learning how we move from one pose to the next too quickly. She said we need to slow down and breathe more through the transition. That is a life lesson right there. Slow down, notice your body, and breathe. How often are we holding our breath through life?

These transitions are all around us. Right now, I can’t wait for fall weather, and I know holidays are coming up. Where are you in your world? Anything you can’t wait to get here? Significant transitions and little transitions. Promotion at work? Weddings? New jobs? Maybe even something that isn’t “in the works” yet but you can’t wait for it to here already. Just for right now, be present and breathe.

Filed Under: Psychoeducation, Self Awareness, Self-Care Tagged With: breathing, control issues, empowerment, internal wisdom, letting go, mental-health, self-care, transition

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